At times, dating can make you feel like a different person. Dating can be especially trying if you're not simply doing it to have fun, but to get married.
Every suitor is a potential husband, and every woman is a possible wife — not to mention father or mother of your future children. It's no exaggeration to say that outside of following Christ, who you choose to marry is the of your life.
A mindset that recognizes the benefits of dating, while also acknowledging the drawbacks. Devastated, I told God I never again wanted to date, even if it meant a lifetime of singleness. Maybe you too have dated for years without success. We figure our future spouse is our soulmate — a perfect match who will satisfy our every desire, the one person who will finally make us whole.
I found myself asking these questions not too long ago. Not only is this idea unbiblical, it ends up placing too much pressure on us to find a spouse.
It has been reported that Harry and Meghan may get engaged on her 36th birthday on August 4 so that they are “officially” an item when Harry hosts the Invictus Games in her home town of Toronto in September.
It is thought the Archbishop of Canterbury would have to provide a special licence for the wedding and Harry, 32, would also need the Queen’s permission.
With this perspective, it's easy to consider anything less than a ring on the finger a failure.
But this zero-sum mentality leaves us in a precarious position, since, according to this definition, dating is always unsuccessful — until the one time it's not.
Or double-down and immerse yourself even deeper into every relationship in hopes of chancing upon your future spouse? And there was always the possibility I might not meet her standards. Perhaps like me, you too grew up believing God preordained one person for you to marry.
Perhaps there's another route, a pathway between hopelessness and franticness. Then the unthinkable happened: A woman I truly cared for broke my heart. Maybe you've ended a relationship because the other person didn't measure up. And while I still hold to this belief, some of us take it a step further.