So here are some of the most obvious online dating "flags" I suggest you use to steer clear of players and time-wasters: 1. Beware if he sends you a "wink" or a "smile" instead of a properly written e-mail.I guarantee that the man who will ultimately want to marry you will not send you a "wink." Please don't be fooled into thinking he's "shy" or just intimidated by your fabulousness.It is okay to spend some time getting the right photo - but don't waste time dilly dallying and dragging your feet about posting it. I remember one woman I was coaching was so excited to have received a "Hi Gorgeous!" e-mail from a hunk who told her all about his job as a pilot and his deep desire for passionate communication with a soul mate.-- except the MOST IMPORTANT ONE: "Can I have your number?" In , authors Sherrie Schneider and Ellen Fein say that if a man hasn't asked for your number is four e-mails then he's a "Next!Keep your replies short and sweet, light and breezy. You're a busy woman with lots of admirers, friends, projects and interests.If he truly wants to get to know you better -- and you're not available for long e-mail correspondence (or long phone conversations, for that matter) -- he'll have no recourse than to step up and ask for a date.
What a Player Isn’t First and foremost, a guy isn’t necessarily a player if he decided to break it off with you.Yes, it's possible he's a wimp or insecure (and therefore not really robust dating material anyway).But it's far more likely he's e-blasting winks to innumerable women to see what kind of responses he'll solicit.If you're a thick-skinned, even-keeled kind of girl who bounces back easily from rejection and is really only looking for fun, then the protective measures outlined above may not be applicable.But if you're a more passionate, sensitive type -- especially one who's "hit bottom" romantically with an excruciating break-up -- and you're not embarrassed to admit (to yourself, anyway) that you'd like to get married, maybe start a family, or at least enjoy a loving, stable, long-term relationship, then maybe it's time for you to try a radically different approach. Wrongs is the vital first step toward clearing the way for Mr.