However, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology.
And according to a study by the National Bureau of Economic Research, couples who lived together before marrying have nearly an 80 percent higher divorce rate than those who did not.
What you are forgetting is that there is a third option: the option taught to us by our beloved Prophet (sws).
Let us examine each of the three options for meeting a marriage partner: One option is dating. First, the Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. Department of Justice, 68% of young girls raped knew their rapist either as a boyfriend, friend or casual acquaintance, and 60% of rapes of young women occur in their own home or a friend or relative’s home – not in a dark alley.
How could we ever think that a better system could exist than the one prescribed by our Maker and the master of the universe? I pray that what I’ve said has been beneficial to you. Just by seeing someone at work, school or a conference?
That feels like taking an important step based on insufficient information.
There is also the option of completely arranged marriages.This is called (Sahih Bukhari) Now it is important to note that Allah never prohibits something unless it is harmful to us. First, most reports of sexual abuse are not committed by strangers. So, overwhelmingly, it is those people who you are out on a ‘date’ with that commit these crimes.Also, as dating has become more widespread in a society, so has unwanted pregnancy, as well as sexually transmitted diseases.You explain that dating is needed since arranged marriages are not feasible.However, by saying this you imply that these are the only two routes to getting married.