I don't use Deaf with a capital D because those who use Deaf with a capital D are part of a specific community, with sign language as their primarily means of communication.I'm deaf with a lower case d because I can't hear without the use of cochlear implants, but I never learned sign language and don't have much of a desire to.Woman C: I was so nervous I wouldn't be able to hear the guys I went out with and they'd think I was ditzy, but most of the guys I went on dates with didn't seem to mind repeating themselves. The only difference I could think of would be a deaf person would have less awareness about noise level, but it does depend on your partner. Woman A: The benefits were that they could help me to order food in restaurants and communicate with people.When I began having sex as a teenager, I was really nervous that they'd accidentally see my cochlear implants and be weirded out. They might say I took advantage of her because of her disability." I've never had a guy say those things to me, but that was my biggest worry. If they know they're noisy, they'll just restrain it as much as possible. The drawbacks were that they didn't understand what it is like to not be able to hear.Woman A: I had my first boyfriend at 14, but not a "real" one until I was 21. Woman C: I didn't have an official date until my freshman year of high school.Woman A: Prior to getting my cochlear implants, it was hard for me to date the guy I was seeing at the time because I couldn't hear him well and he'd get frustrated."You should be so lucky I gave you the time," or, "You're deaf, so you shouldn't have unrealistic expectations." I also can't really do hookups at parties because I have to recharge the batteries in my cochlear implants and I never want to wake up completely deaf the next day in an unfamiliar setting. I can hear very well through my cochlear implants, but prior to my implants, most of my communication was through text or Facebook messages.
Sexually, there was always the issue of whether I should keep my hearing aids (and later, cochlear implants) on or not. Since my eardrums still work, I can sense vibrations from noisy things like stereos, megaphones, or shrill whistles if I'm within vicinity, but without my bilateral cochlear implants, my brain is oblivious to sounds. By the time I was 18 months old, I was declared profoundly deaf, meaning I cannot hear anything.The best part is I don't have to listen to anyone's weird sex noises. It has some challenges, but for the most part it's pretty much the same.We're people with the same needs, wants, desires, and interests as anyone else.