But not all young people are energetic and flighty. Maybe you’re drawn to women who are passionate, outspoken and slightly nihilistic, and historically you’ve dated a lot of Argentine women.Maybe you are drawn to women who are clear on what they want, who have fascinating stories to tell and lots of wisdom to share, and all your exes happen to be older than you. Regardless, you wouldn’t just be with someone being into someone only because of the demographics they represent—by which I mean, their age.“It’s really just about whether you’re on the same wavelength and whether you’re ready for the same things at the same time,” says Patrick, a 32-year-old graphic designer in New Orleans.(Full disclosure: we have never dated.) Though stage in life is commonly tied to age, the two don’t necessarily run parallel, as was the case when Patrick dated a woman eight years his senior.
Then again, if you’re on the same wavelength, you’re ready for the same things at the same time, and that sweet sweet fire chemistry is truly lit, you may just need to learn each other’s languages.Consent is imperative; not exploiting people and not letting other people exploit you is imperative.But don't be afraid to celebrate and embrace the thrill that there are more options for your romantic life than there ever was for your no-good-dirty-rotten-cradle-robbing-great-great-grandfather.If our current political climate is any indicator, being older doesn't necessarily mean being wiser.Most of us know a 45-year-old who behaves like an incensed preteen barred from attending her friend’s slumber birthday party, or a Bodhisattva-esque 12-year-old with an inherent understanding of the tides. In today’s dating world, there is no clear-cut line for when an age gap in a romantic relationship goes beyond the socially acceptable and becomes creepy.