It’s like she’s trying to convince herself that she’s in love with me and that I’m the one for her. But since my own breakup with my long-term girlfriend years ago, I’ve made a habit of keeping things cool with any women I meet.I just don’t want to experience the devastation of a broken heart again.I’m 28, but I can feel that at any moment I could lose control over her.This has always been a problem for me in the past and it’s destroyed a few relationships.Women’s standards were shown to be unreasonable (and dare I say delusional!) while men’s weren’t, despite what the popular culture around us constantly repeats like a mantra -- that men’s standards of female beauty are unfair to women and objectify them!I don’t usually return the flirting -- I always keep it cool. I keep my mouth shut whenever she makes any plans for the future.I comment that they’re quite interesting and leave it at that. When we’re together -- which isn’t all that often as per your coaching -- we just enjoy each other’s company. My gut seems to be telling me that Kimberly is coming on too strong because she’s not really over her ex.
They both claimed that by failing to call her I dropped her Interest Level.This really surprised me, but has explained my online dating experience.I estimate myself as around a 6 or 7, and while I do match up with a few women on dating sites, the numbers are low, and generally the women are unresponsive, lethargic, have little interest, are flakey or can’t be bothered to write back.I’m a longtime follower of “The System.” I’m 51, look 41, and act 31.I’ve made my rounds on the online dating sites since divorcing five years ago and have taken my lumps, learned a lot, and fortunately found your book last year.